Hello once again Readers!!! What! Darth Vader is next to me? And I’m smiling?! Well yeah, we’re cool like that. He supports type-one diabetes so he’s no longer a villan in my eyes. Huh?
So how was your weekend? Eventful? Boring? Both? My weekend was crammed full of cleaning and disciplining the youngins. Yay…(note the sarcasm).
So today I felt that I’d share my woes of being rejected. I went through many before I found the final yes. I felt the pang of disappointment every time I opened my email, only to find the opposite of my hopes. My total rejection count neared 20. My ending request count was one request for my manuscript from an agent and three from publisher’s (one of which, I signed with and one who was a scammer), so I know how long and painful the road can be.
But there’s something you should know.
Every writer experiences rejections. And there are many variables as to why:
- You didn’t sell yourself in your query to meet their standards.
- You chose the wrong publisher or agent to submit to.
- You didn’t do thorough research about the one you queried.
- They had a bad day and felt like saying no…a bunch of times.
Rejections aren’t sent to discourage you and make you feel like your career is over. Rejections are a rite of passage. They are all a part of becoming an author. A learning lesson, a stepping stone. It means it wasn’t meant to be with that particular company.
But I have good news. I have found the light behind the cruel, cold rejection. I have found how we, as aspiring authors, can turn that frown upside down! Rejections can be recycled for the greater good. So let me fill you in on what you may be missing out on:
- Build a fire. Fire has so many different meanings to so many different people, but we all can agree on one thing: fire warms us when we are cold. When you need kindling, print out that lovely old rejection letter. Maybe even write a few hate words on them or curses, and then toss them in, Voila! You now have a fire and revenge.
- Paper airplanes!!! Need I say more?
- Coloring paper for the little ones. Turn what was once a heartbreak into beautiful art! As a matter of fact, color one yourself. Draw a sun or some trees, or the middle finger if it makes you feel better.
Is this for real? Well, no. We were rejected for a real reason. And the above is just an attempt at lightening the situation. It’s how I got through it. It helped me stray from the breaking point.
To deal with a rejection the right way, you must learn how to self-evaluate. Go back through your query letter. Go online and read other people’s query letters. Get some ideas on what sells. All you need is a foot in the door.
And find the right publisher or agent. Don’t just submit to any and every one. You have to keep in mind that a career in writing is viewed as a long-term relationship. They want to be able to rely on you. They make money when you make money. But more importantly, you have to get along in order for it to work. Not every agent or publisher wants to fight for someone or something they don’t believe in. Their job is to sell. They can’t sell what they aren’t passionate about. Just like no one will notice you if you don’t believe in your own work.
And now I’m rambling. I meant for this to be a strictly humorous post, but there is a reason we receive rejections and the sooner we learn how to accept them and learn from them, the sooner we will find success. I know this because I have learned a vast amount and not just because I finally landed a contract. Looking back, I feel a bit naive in my attempts at querying. There was still so mcuh that I needed to learn. I was just lucky I suppose. My publisher showed me mercy.
Now to leave you with a question: Does this help you at all? Do you have any other questions? Or any helpful advice for those who are just beginning their journey?
Echelon out ♥